My wife wants to quit her $39k job that is supporting the family because she believes it’s a man’s job to work?

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Back in 2002, my wife (21 at the time) and I (20) had our first child. After his birth it took my wife and I 2 years to find a “stable job” to support him under since we both struggled with low paying jobs that we kept getting fired/quit from. From 2003 to 2010 I worked a job that brought in the majority of the income (ending pay was $ 41k); meanwhile, my wife was going for her associate’s degree in accounting and working various jobs to help with bills. In April of 2010, I lost my job and fell hard into depression as a result. My wife then took on a job that has supported the family since then. My wife now makes $ 39k a year (almost as much as I did) and still gets to see the kids about as much as she would if she was home because they are in school now. But this doesn’t make my wife happy. My wife wants to quit her job and force me back into a career making the household income so she can stay home and get her bachelor’s and play with her girlfriends. Meanwhile, I don’t have ANY college education and since I was FIRED from my last employer, finding a job in Michigan (with 13% unemployment rate in the state and most of that in my area) will be extremely difficult. I have several disabilities that prevent me from working including: generalized anxiety disorder, attention deficient disorder, two fused discs in my back causing me back pain when lifting heavy items, either lactose intolerance or irritable bowel syndrome, anal fissure that gets aggravated due to the irritable bowl syndrome situation, constant anxiety attacks with muscle tension in my back, and lately my feet have been hurting which sounds a lot like Plantar fasciitis… If my health is so terrible, and if she’s already making $ 39k, can you explain to me why she would want to be home and push me out into the world to work that high stress and body damaging crap all over again? Emotionally and mentally I’m not a cripple, but physically and psychologically I am. Do you think my wife is being selfish/irrational? Or do you think that I’m being selfish for not doing my Christian duty as being the “man of the house” and “providing for my family” like a real “Man” would do? (Sorry for the attitude but you know all that is a stereotype right?)

Help me work out a compromise here. I’m running out of ways to tell my wife that I’m not fit to work because to her she sees them as all “lies” even though doctors are the ones saying I have these conditions…

Just so everyone knows: I do ALL the house chores. I mean ALL of them. The only thing I’ll try to skip out on doing is making dinner because I’m not a good cook. I even take care of the kids 90% of the time while my wife hides in the basement to pay bills, socialize with her girlfriends, and plays games. So don’t assume that all I do is lay around the house; you house wives know what it’s like to take care of a family of 4. Constantly cleaning messes, constantly doing laundry, constantly disinfecting rooms, constantly caring for animals, constantly vacuuming, and all the other things we at home’s do. It’s actually really hard work to keep a house up to “keeping up with the jones’s” standards!!!! So don’t give me this “you’re lazy” bull crap; I work probably harder than her at home! How hard is it to crunch numbers in front of a computer if you’ve been TRAINED to do that? I want to add too that I take care of ALL of my wife’s emotional needs that I can. I rub her back and pop her zits and scrape her skin and massage her body and go OUT of my way to make her life working comfortable/convenient.

Answer me this: If you had to work but you came home and you were treated like a king/queen, would YOU stop working?

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Answer by Dan
Negative. Its not the 1800′s. Women worked hard to be a voice in today society. She better not quite her job. She might never find a another one. Im not kidding. You both should be working!

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